So to answer this burning question once and for all for the men who want to know but don't want to be rude about it , I asked a few women who have gone to bed with both ladies and gentlemen to give me the run down of pros and cons — and asked them to spare no detail. Like, the last woman they made out with never complained, so this must be great! Maybe it's because men are more visual, and maybe because in general I find the female body more attractive. But she was also a clean freak, so we were washing toys in between using them on each other which would kill the mood. Hand jobs need lube of some kind. She and I had been together for so long that it never even occurred to me that lack of lube would be a hurdle to overcome when sleeping with a guy. Women, Because They Self-Lubricate "I lost my virginity to my college girlfriend, and after we broke up the next person that I slept with ended up being my guy friend. I've slept with dozens of women and never once have I ever came across a chick who couldn't get me off with her hands. Eventually I started craving that simplicity that comes with hetero sex. Men, Because They Pay More Attention "This might be a personal thing, but I've noticed that when I sleep with men, they can't take their eyes off of me, whereas when I'm sleeping with a woman, I'm the observer. I'm always grabbing their hand to try and get them on the right track. Sure, there are likely going to be different nuances when it comes to dating each gender. It's really so different than when I'm sleeping with a girl, and there's this total attention shift. When you find out that a woman swings both ways , a ton of questions probably come to mind. She was really into using toys, so we'd take turns using a strap-on and different vibrators. But that being said, there's nothing that makes me feel as hot as when I'm riding some guy and he can't look away. Women are much better kissers.