As it turns out, being spat on and doing the spitting yourself, for that matter , can be a highly erotic experience. Not because they don't respect the person they do it to in fact, a lot of these people have healthy, loving relationships with each other , but rather, they do it more in a "roleplay" kind of way. If your boyfriend doesn't really give you any reason to think he doesn't respect you other than wanting to play in a "kinky" way in the bedroom, then I don't think there's any reason to jump to the conclusion that he wants to disrespect you. In the bedroom, however, those rules go out of the window. While it might seem unconventional to , there are plenty of people who consider it to be a major turn on. The reason is actually far simpler than you may have presumed. The sensuality in spitting. So, why do some people bring their spit into the bedroom? If he does it when you've told him you don't like it, or does it without asking you if you're okay with it, then it's disrespectful. We all have random little kinks; sexual interests that inexplicably get us going. Weird though it may seem to you, some people spit on each other during sex. Think of it sort of like people who enjoy being called or calling someone else names during sexit can be a huge turn-on even if the person calling the names doesn't actually mean it and the person being called names knows the other person doesn't actually mean it. However, if you're not well-versed in spitting during sex, then you may enjoy this psychological crash course. As it turns out, these kinks may not be quite as inexplicable as we believe.