Journal of the International Association for Relationship Research. Having greater communication prior to meeting, asking for more information, having the other person honestly provide it, and finding there is solid similarity before that first date make it more likely to be successful, at least in the short run. Further research is required to see if and when this more-is-better finding carries out over the long run. Searching for a Mate: SHARE Online dating has, for many, become a mainstay of meeting new potential romantic partners, whether looking for casual dating, serious dating or even a marital partner. The Rise of the Internet as a Social Intermediary. Likewise, there was no point at which having less uncertainty about the other person became a negative. Indeed, Sharabi and Caughlin found that, contrary to their expectations, the greater the similarity, the better. It appears that, in general, people who ask more before the first date have a better experience than those who wait until they meet to find out important information, possibly because they are less likely to be disillusioned. When people were overly positive, exaggerating similarities and the expectation of future interactions, disillusionment was very likely; this effect was greater when communication was lower, presumably because people are able to maintain positive illusions in the absence of information about the other person, leading to a greater risk of being disappointed. Importantly, all other factors being equal, greater communication overall, and greater disclosure, predicted first date success. Especially if online dating isn't working, it is time to let your friends know you are looking, and get out and do more socializing. There was no point at which there was too much similarity, at least right after the first date. What online dating behaviors and factors set the stage for a successful first date, and the potential for an ongoing relationship? The ability to find out more ahead of time, versus the proverbial "blind date" or even meeting a stranger at a party, is an advantage that online dating has over conventional dating—if you ask questions, and if the other person genuinely shares. Of that first group, 94 participants had a first date, and completed the full survey, which included measures drawn from the literature on relationships and online dating. The more someone knew—the better and the more they had asked about the other person "information seeking" —the more likely the first date was to be successful, presumably because doing so reduced uncertainty.