In good marriages, by comparison, about two thirds of their problems never get resolved. When it was time for the good-night kiss, there was a lot of positive emotional tension driving them to want each other. When they first started dating, Don and Amelia both worked really hard to make each other happy. The storytellers typically fault their wives, some going so far as to suspect a premeditated bait-and-switch. I saw them being interviewed. Ray Romano has a completely enjoyable comedy skit about this. Not to the detriment of self but to the expansion of it. Today has been neither of these days. In the s and 50s, mom stayed at home and made the kids her priority; dad was always at work. They were very direct and respectful with each other and they seemed to enjoy each other's company completely. The research showed, though, that having the seven above elements could overcame bad communication; and good communication would not fix a marriage that was lacking most of these elements. They make plans and get excited over even routine nights out. For people who are unhappy in their marriage, about two thirds of their problems never get resolved. Stay hungry my friends. He crunched the numbers and discovered something fascinating. See the following sections. In fact, they can joke with each other about them.