With a body full of testosterone, they are sexual kindling to the sexual stimuli all around, and it can be discouraging when they have a female partner who cannot fathom what it feels like to ignite instantaneously. But an overwhelming majority of men had sought out porn, and it is hurting many marriages. He may be experiencing low testosterone, which is a normal result of aging. Porn changes the brain, and not in a good way. The good thing is that this category is the easiest to fix—if you can get him to talk to a doctor. Make an appointment with someone who is comfortable and knowledgeable to talk to you about sexual problems. In any given population, some will have extremely high sex drives, and some will have extremely low sex drives. Excessive drinking affects the production of testosterone, the primary hormone responsible for our sex drive. For instance, if you are getting less sleep because you and your mate are experiencing emotional difficulties or you are the parents of a new baby. That said, even the most understanding woman might not get an honest answer out of a man who is either too embarrassed to tell the truth, or who doesn't even quite know WHY he's feeling this way. Unfortunately, women can misinterpret these problems as attraction problems and become critical or reactive, which just complicates the dynamic further. And so he was never sure if any decisions he made, or any steps he took, were the right ones. Porn steals the natural desire you have for each other, so that you stop desiring each other. Our partner is often the last person we tell our strongest, core turn-ons to because they're often slightly 'dodgy'. British men are particularly vulnerable: Experts seem to think it has something to do with our polluted environment.