If you haven't accepted your sexuality or have negative feelings about it, others will sense that and it will make them uncomfortable. He hopes opening a restaurant and hiring staff will free him from peeling, cutting, mashing and other kitchen duties so that he can take his career in another direction. It's not just LGBTs, people don't like what's foreign to them. There's no need to tell family and friends if you're not ready. I told him we don't need people in our lives who don't take us for who we are. While I'm still young, I have to act. I was always the bossy type so no one said things to my face. Now the parents are pleased to see how their "sons" are bringing about social change on a national scale. If they see any room for negotiation they'll try to persuade you to go back to 'normal'. But our landlord looked us up on the internet, saw our story covered by the media and gave us the thumbs up. But it is not something Terai prescribes for others. My cooking skills are my weapon and I call myself a chef, but I'm also a messenger. While Terai did not hesitate to come out to his mother when, in his late teens, he began to understand he is attracted to men, Nakagawa waited until his chef partner convinced him, forcefully, to tell his parents. While Terai's mother said she "knew it" when he came out, the reaction Nakagawa got from his parents was more or less what he had expected, reminding him why he had kept them in the dark for so long. Due to his unabashed, free-thinking nature, Terai says he and his play-it-safe partner whom he met on Facebook got into many explosive arguments before they swore their partnership oath and had a wedding ceremony. Still, back in the kitchen and out in the real world, Terai's sweet and sour adventure has only begun. Despite having an upcoming second book and plans to open a restaurant, he still just cooks out of his average-sized kitchen in a single-family home.