She really thought she had initiated. Women are afraid that as soon as they enter the sexual relationship more fully, their husbands will raise the bar and expect more. What role can women play in men's sexual health? The media is increasingly adding pressure to men about their appearance and even guys who have never been vain, can succumb. Women need lots of time to get into the mood and even more time to reach orgasm , but every time? Another wife in treatment told me she sat down next to her husband while watching TV. That's called premature ejaculation. More deeply though, in a monogamous relationship, sexual desire is what sets our lover apart as our unique. If you are going to initiate — go for broke. There's actually scientific research to support the observation that women tend to feel sexual desire towards those men for whom they feel an emotional connection. This tells us that there are indeed going to be a lot of women who have sex drives that are higher than a lot men. Women need to very clearly direct their men with reference to their healthcare, to explain to them very clearly that they understand that there is an important link between the health of a man and the sexual capacity of a man, and I think that when a woman appreciates that there's a change in the man's performance, it's really the need for medical attention and not to blame either one of the parties for this happening. We may struggle to reveal our erotic imagination lest we raise suspicion or resentment for not saying so sooner! Women have to understand that if they notice a change in their husband's or their partner's performance, it's not the result of let's say a problem with the relationship, although it might be, alright, but it is really an opportunity for them to say, you know honey, I think that we really probably need to go to the doctor because sex is important in our relationship, but maybe even more so, I'm concerned about your health. Expressing our desire says — I want you - we belong together.