Through therapy, I can learn to respond more appropriately to high stress situations, and I can also develop coping skills for anxiety, nightmares and flashbacks, however, it will always take a little extra effort on my part. This is a purely physical response but something which many survivors experience, including myself, and something which can make even our closest loved ones uncomfortable. Looking at each in turn can give you an up-close perspective and better understanding of hurdles you may struggle with every day. Their childhood was developmentally off kilter, and to lessen whatever pains they feel or remember in the present, adult survivors often seek to avoid the attention and closeness of others. The resources below are not referrals, but a place to start in researching other ways to share your story. Here are the reasons why I have started talking about my childhood of sexual abuse: What is important to me, more than any salacious details, is the profound devastation it caused. As children forced into distressing sexual situations, they were denied many key developmental skills and experiences. Visit his website at timverity. I strongly believe that the more we are heard, believed and understood, the less power there is for abusers to stifle and coerce potential victims. Tim Verity left the family home at the age of 16 Credit: My support system consists of my two therapists, one for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing EMDR and one for cognitive behavioral therapy CBT , my husband, my children and a few close friends who are also survivors.