Six things NOT to do in bed ever 1. It's like the sexual equivalent of a business suit. Instead of staring at the wall or ceiling, make eye contact with your partner and tell them how much you're enjoying this shared experience with your eyes. Trying to act out a random fantasy in bed before talking about it can lead to some awkward or weird mishaps. Sometimes you just have to accept it may not be your or their nights, and that's fine - concentrate on just enjoying the ride. Biting before your partner's ready While many people enjoy an aggressive partner, biting any part of their body before they are aroused may lead to pain and discomfort and might even lessen the chances of any further action or simply scare them off. One reader tells us, "My boyfriend stimulated my PS-spot with his fingers during oral sex; it was a seriously intense experience for both of us. Not everyone is clear on his mind on how to have sex which feels great. Not kissing Believe it or not, many people and this includes women don't kiss their partner when they're having sex. Gently caressing these areas will help excite your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring you back. If lingerie isn't your thing, try a pair of stilettos or red-hot lipstick, instead. Nevertheless, it is highly recommended that you make an effort to kiss your partner during the act — it will only add to the experience. Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, "that feels so good," will encourage them and educate them further on your moan zones. Take yourself back to the early days of getting together like teenagers and then going out for the evening before having sex. Talk about fantasies and fetishes before sex We all have fantasies about things we want to try in bed, but like we said before, communication is key. Lube it up Who knew one small tube could revolutionise your sex life?