There is no debate allowed in this forum, and no spiritual warfare posts or links allowed. That destroys the foundation of your understanding of sex. You can use your sexual fantasies for either bad or good purposes; sometimes they lead to sin and destruction, but if you use them to create sexual energy in your marriage , they can lead to a stronger marriage. Take Prince Hans in the movie Frozen, for example. One of them is letting yourself get overtired and overstressed, the other is trying to get a loneliness fix by reading secular romance novels. I probably need professional help, but I don't trust many people. Please read here about more of the guidelines and information about this forum. Because, well, we have to. Recognize that sexual fantasies are normal and not always wrong. For Paul, sexuality is a deeply spiritual and soteriological reality 1 Corinthians 6: Although I may be correct in some of these guesses, no doubt I'm far off base in others. History teacher said something I will never forget. And yes, it is only the Holy Spirit who can bring change and healing into that. What you can do is deal wisely with the fantasies you experience, learning from them so you can heal from the emotional pain they reveal and enjoy healthy expressions of your God-given sexuality. In fact there are several things you can do. Published by Thomas Nelson, Inc. One part revolves around campus work, studies, Bible studies , another is family they've never met any of my friends, coworkers, or associates , and last comes non-family relationships.