The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, by the way, recommends that every sexually-active person is tested once a year. He wanted a woman who had a solid group of friends, because he felt that he could tell a lot about a woman by the company she keeps. Instead of putting a set number of dates or timeline on it, figure out what you really want in a potential long term partner — and don't give it up unless those important factors are hit. As clinical psychologist Dr. We both loved to cook we're both Italian , so we signed up for a weekly pasta-making class together. For some it's just a physical act, but for others, sex can be a powerful and emotional act that can bond you and your partner. I don't think it's a timing thing as much as a person thing. There is no magical timetable, but if these studies are to be believed, waiting just a little bit can do some good. But again, the evidence to support that claim is very limited. The introduction of that conversation was often awkward and apologetic. And you know, she never typically does this type of thing, but the two of you have something really special going on here Few studies have looked at the health of a relationship as it relates to when couples first had sex, and the research that has been done mostly features specific samples of people — mainly college students or married heterosexual couples. Researchers said that participants who waited at least six months to have sex with their partners were actually happier than those who didn't. But when it comes to how much time that takes, it depends.